Often thought of as a solo activity, the use of sex toys by couples can improve their sexual relationship. Using a sex toy is a fun way to spice up your relationship whilst boosting a couple’s intimacy. The benefits of using a sex toy are numerous, including keeping your Kegel muscles toned and your libido charged.
Why should I use a sex toy?
The benefits of using a sex toy are huge. Having great sex can promote health and well being by improving your mood and physically making you feel good. Using a sex toy can spice up a flagging sex life and bring a bit of fun into your life. A sex toy will make you feel great as well as promoting your circulation and the release of the “feel good factors” during an orgasm. It can also increase the tone and elasticity of the vaginal walls and promote the release of vaginal secretions which can decline as we get older, as a result of ill health or side effects of medication.
Male sex toys can help improve or boost erectile function by offering different sexual stimulation, not possible during penetrative sex.
Sex is not just about having sexual intercourse which is only one way to have fulfilling sex. Using a sex toy can bring great pleasure to both of you if penetration is not possible. Many couples are unable to have sex due to physical or emotional problems so using a sex toy may help.
Glass and metals sex toys are a great way to enjoy temperature play as they can be heated gently in warm water or cooled in the fridge (not the freezer or boiling water) for a completely different sexual sensation that many people love.
Will it ruin my normal sex life?
When used with your partner, sex toys provide couples with the opportunity to fully express themselves sexually and increase their sexual pleasure, especially when using them to stimulate their partner.
Couples can use sex toys to boost their sexual satisfaction, introduce variety into a relationship which may have become boring and make sex fun. Having sex with the same person for many years can become a bit stale but a sex toy can help to make sexual intercourse more fun, pleasurable and exciting.
They are also a great way to discover how to enjoy an orgasm or new ways to orgams during sex especially if you struggle to orgasm during penetrative sex.
Becoming aroused with the help of a sex toy is no different to any other way and may increase your pleasure. Your partner may prefer to use a sex toy to arouse you to avoid an aching hand if it takes a while, esepcially as you get older.
I want to but I’m too embarrassed
Since the famous rabbit vibrator was mentioned on “Sex and the City” it has become acceptable to own sex toys. According to recent statistics, nearly 60% of women own a sex toy and 75% of those who do are married. You may be surprised at how many of your friends own a toy: it is normally the quiet ones!
Men can enjoy the fun with their sex toys too.
My partner isn’t keen on the idea
If your partner isn’t keen on you using a sex toy, use it on your own or try to encourage them that using a sex toy is not replacing them but improving what you already share. It can increase trust and closeness between you and your partner. You may also find your inner sex kitten which many partners will love.
I don’t want to scare my partner
Some men feel that they won’t match up to what a sex toy can do and they may be replaced by a vibrator. This couldn’t be more wrong. A third of Brits admitted to using sex toys to improve their sex life. Using sex toys together enhances sexual pleasure for both people involved.
You don’t need to buy the biggest vibrator available. Bigger is not necessarily better, it is the power of the vibrations and where and how you want to use it that matters. Also, you don’t want to frighten your partner away. Many vibrator virgins buy a smaller toy to begin with and graduate to a larger one, according to their needs.
We always recommend using a skin safe pH balanced sexual lubricant with all our sex toys to enhance your pleasure. Silicone lubricants are not recommended for use with silicone sex toys but are ideal to use with glass, metal or ABS plastic.
There is no single sex toy which is right for everyone. We all have differing sexual needs and experimenting with a variety of products will enable you to find the perfect toys for you. There are many sex toys available for both sexes which provide enormous pleasure. If you have a bad experience with one toy, don’t give up: try something else. You may find that once you have persuaded your partner to try a sex toy, they will be hooked and will want to try more so don’t be afraid to use one.
I feel uncomfortable buying one from a shop
With the advent of the internet it has never been easier to buy sex toys. Ensure that you buy from a reputable retailer who has an email address, telephone number and contact address details on their website.
Be wary of very cheap products, there are many fake and used sex toys being sold online which are harmful to your sexual health and pleasure.
When buying a product that’s going to be in contact with your genitals, it’s really important to ensure that it is skin safe. Materials such as rubber and jelly can be harmful as they are porous, making them difficult to clean. This means that bacteria can linger on the product and could give you thrush. They also contain phthalates, a substance banned from children’s toys because it is harmful to health.
As a sex toy company that onlys sells skin safe sex toys, we always advise you choose skin safe sex toys to protect your sexual health and pleasure.Silicone, metal and glass sex toys are all safe to use as they are non-porous, making for easy cleaning.
You need to make sure that your details are not passed on to third parties or that you will not be swamped with unwanted emails or catalogues. A reputable company will not do this.
You can also find adverts selling luxury sex toys in the classified section of some magazines if you are not internet savvy.
Reputable suppliers are discreet and will dispatch your product in plain packaging and some ask for a signature to ensure it has been delivered to the right person.
By incorporating a sex toy into your sex life, be it for solo or couples play you will discover just how it will enhance your pleasure and promote good sexual health. Once you start, you may end up with a cupboard/drawer full of gorgeous sex toys for every sexual need and desire!